Having your own boudoir experience is not just brave, but it can boost your confidence by 1,000%! In this video, I am going to give you all the reasons people have told me why they are hesitant to do their own. Do you hear one you have given in the past?

1. I AM TOO OLD
   Who told you that? There is no age limit on having your own boudoir session. I know photographers who have captured women well into their 70’s. I often think of boudoir as a legacy you get to pass down to the younger generation. You get to show them examples of loving all parts of you. 

2. WHAT IF SOMEONE SEES THE IMAGES OTHER THAN ME
   One of the reasons you work with a professional photographer is because our contracts protect you, the client, and us the professional photographer. That contract should state that written permission from you has to be given before any images can be shared. Your privacy is one of our top priorities. 

3. I DON’T WANT TO WEAR LINGERIE 
   And you won’t! Boudoir clothing can be much more than barely there lingerie. You can wear tank tops, caftans, t-shirts, or even a sweater. You can wear whatever makes you feel comfortable because there are no rules. Only the ones you make when it comes to what you want to wear. 

4. MY FRIENDS, FAMILY, OR CHURCH WOULDN’T APPROVE
   The only people that matter when it comes to your boudoir session is you. You get to decide if you will share this experience with others. You get to decide how your images are showcased in your home. Everyone can have an opinion about you and your life, but its up to you to live your life as you want. You don’t need approval from anyone to do anything that can bring you joy and make you feel empowered. Period!
5. I AM TOO SCARED TO DO THIS ALONE
   You will not be alone. Your photographer is your personal hype person for the day! That is why it is so very important to find a photographer that you vibe with. Check their social media pages, look at client testimonials and set up a phone or video consultation.

There are certain things that are helpful and important to help me make your boudoir experience be as comfortable and fun as possible. My client’s pre-experience questionnaire has all these questions and more.

1. Do you have any challenges with mobility.
   Boudoir photographers want to make sure you are comfortable in the poses we place you in. You may have some discomfort with poses, especially the back bend, but no poses should bring about pain.

2. Your pronouns & the name you like to be called.
   Celebrating you as you want to be celebrated extends into calling you by your name. 

3. What music makes you feel empowered and sexy.
   Music helps set the mood. Moving to a sensual sound can help you release your inhibitions. Certain lyrics can make you  feel empowered. 

4. Your level of comfort with nudity.
   Wearing lingerie in front of a person you barely know can be very unnerving. A photographer’s ultimate goal is to make you feel comfortable, seen and heard. Some people do not mind getting naked in front of others, some are completely opposite. Let your photographer know what feels right for you.