*TRIGGER WARNING*

Facebook does an amazing job of reminding you where you were when your life changes. Sometimes for the better and sometimes it could have been the worst day of your life. 

6 years ago today my life changed dramatically. I was living in my own Lifetime Movie.  I was driving home to Baltimore and was in a major car accident. Two weeks prior I had miscarried twins.

 My car was clipped and I spun out across 4 lanes of traffic. I flipped and the only thing that saved me from continuing to flip was an exit sign on the highway.

Shook doesn’t even begin to describe my feelings. The car had to be stabilized and I had to crawl out the broken back window. When I saw my car, I couldn’t believe I was able to walk to the ambulance. 

After I got over my shock I was mad as shit. I had just paid off that damn car the month before and had a full tank of gas. Now my car was totaled. 

 To round this all out I found out, that same day, my ex-husband had betrayed me and was on a cruise with someone else. The only word I can use to describe this time in my life is numb. 

Healing Takes Time 

I choose myself after 6 months.

I forgave myself after 2 years.

It took me 3 years to love myself.

It has taken 6 years to get me to this point in my life where I truly feel grateful to me, for not giving up on me. 

Facebook reminded me today with this post that it has taken 6 years to get here. 

Healing from multiple traumas takes time. It’s not a one-size-fits-all. Some people never truly heal. They just learn to live in a perpetual state of survival. 

I could have done that. I wanted more for myself. 

Whomever you are I want more for you. I want you to move into your version of thrive mode. I want you to know it is possible. Yes, there will be challenges, but the rewards are so much sweeter. 

I want you to know I know you can do it. It has taken me 6 years to get here. 

If you are interested in learning more about my story and starting your journey on self-healing start here.