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4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE
For each consultation I always ask my Beauties, my clients, to use 3 to 4 words that describe who they are at this time in their life. Rarely does the word sexy come up. I have heard pretty, helpful, resilient, kind, and even beautiful, but rarely sexy. With this in mind I have decided to write this blog post on 4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE! I even made sure to post images. Enjoy!
1. Lose Weight
We all in some form or fashion have had a friend, family member or even a complete stranger say we need to lose weight. If we just lost a little weight we would look better. Or recently I heard if so and so lost weight they could get and keep a man. Whew child! Those people are not your friends and even family can get a side-eye and blocked. SEXY HAS NO SIZE! Sexy, like confidence, is a state of mind. No amount of weight loss will make you feel sexy if you don’t believe it.
2. Don’t Smile
During the initial consultation, we are laughing and having an amazing time getting to know each other. That same energy is carried into the actual experience. Joy is sexy. Laughter is sexy. Being happy is sexy! A boudoir experience is one way to honor your body as it is now. Your body is a work of art. It nourishes you, it has kept you alive during this pandemic. It needs to be celebrated. We need to look at our bodies and smile.
3. Straighten Your Hair
For special occasions throughout our history getting our hair pressed was a rite of passage. You have seen the memes around Easter of the hot comb. Or having to straighten your hair to look more presentable to get that job interview. Discrimination around our hair is very real and alive and well. Our hair is a beautiful reflection of who we are whether it be braided, relaxed, cornrowed, etc. All of these styles are sexy because we make them sexy. You make them sexy.
4. Only Wear Lingerie
When it comes to a boudoir experience you are in total control of what you place on your body. Lingerie is not really my jam. I love a good silk robe or my waistbands and nothing at all. That is my version of getting sexy. Yes, I have a full client closet with lingerie from sizes 5XL to XS. I also have sweaters, dress shirts, tank tops, crop tops, and t-shirts. Just like Black & Brown womxn come in all forms and shades, your sexy look should be a reflection of you.
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Fearless and 35
Fearless and 35! 34 did not end how I thought it would… in a damn pandemic! I didn’t let it stop me, but propel me to plan. Every year I plan to do something that challenges or is out of the ordinary for me. Before my 34th year ended I did three things, that were out of the ordinary for me. I traveled solo to Tulum, Mexico, and relaxed like I have never relaxed before. I did nothing, but read, ate, and got massages. I even had time to do an affirmation video that you can check out on my IG TV . I did travel to Greece solo, but this trip I was actually by myself. No meetups planned, just me.
I logged out of social media and enjoyed my company. I sat outside and listened to the roosters be loud as hell. I ate tacos and drank tequila. I walked the streets of Tulum and even went to the beach. Going to the beach was so freeing. I stuffed my face and me and my big belly walked right to the ocean. I felt at peace.
Check out my mini self portraits I took during the trip.
The second thing I did was get my nose pierced! I was scared shitless for sure, but I did it. I even had to do it twice because it fell out a week after I got it the first time. That was not fun and I do not recommend it.
The third thing I did was have a boudoir experience with Celeste Patrice Boudoir. Whew child Celeste got me and I felt like a damn goddess. I was even able to help her by modeling with a friend for a couples experience. I cannot wait for the adventures I plan to take during 35! What are some things you plan to do this year by stepping on the other side of fear? Will you be fearless and free at any age?
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Empowered Interview: The Female Orgasm
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Cherry Blossom Intimates Collaboration
There comes a time in your life when you have to pursue your dreams relentlessly. Go after what you want with an unwavering dedication to the most important person in your life, yourself. I thought I had been slacking because I felt like there was no progression happening for me. I felt like I was stagnant and everyone around me was moving at full speed with their business. I was feeling down and not motivated. Then something amazing happened!
Let me talk about the power of manifestation and visualization before I tell you a little story. I was visiting one of my favorite stores, Nordstrom Rack, and I saw a sign in a window. Cherry Blossom Intimates coming soon. The sign stated they were a lingerie store and I got so excited! I immediately envisioned myself working with the business. I even took a picture and sent it to my sisters.
Fast forward to the opening day! I went to Cherry Blossom Intimates the first day it opened. I came to the door as they were closing and saw the closed sign and turned away. Jasmine saw me and assured me it was okay and to come in. I was so captivated by the gorgeous space I did not know where to look first! They have a pink moss wall and the lingerie was so decadent and luxurious! I met Dr. Hampton as well and heard the story of why the business is so necessary. I was so elated to see this gorgeous space owned and curated by two Black women that is for us! Not just for us, but the most vulnerable among us.
I am now collaborating with Cherry Blossom Intimates! Can you believe it? I used the power of manifesting and persistence to welcome this opportunity into my life. Check out our latest collaboration which is a package that includes curated lingerie, a personal lingerie fitting and boudoir experience! View the full package here.
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Empowered Woman
I have always considered myself a pretty girl and my husband has always said I am beautiful and if you need a mirror “I am your mirror”. I went from feeling pretty to truly embracing my curves and my sexuality in this photo shoot. You look at yourself and say “Damn! That’s a bad woman in those photos”. I thank Olesha for capturing every aspect of who I am and who my husband has alway seen, even in times when I did not.
So out of the entire boudoir experience my favorite part was learning to control my face. Lol….. Olesha and I had the funniest time going over photos and getting the best facial expressions. I learned to soften my expressions and just be myself and get out of my own head. We as woman tend to stay in our head and question this allowed me to be care free. Be Me!!
If you plan on doing this experience do it for you! It’s an experience that will allow you to feel empowered, sexy and just confident in being a woman. I gave the photos to my husband but every now and then I go and take a look at them to remind me “Damn, that girl is bad”…..
Thanks,
Shayna T.
