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4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE
For each consultation I always ask my Beauties, my clients, to use 3 to 4 words that describe who they are at this time in their life. Rarely does the word sexy come up. I have heard pretty, helpful, resilient, kind, and even beautiful, but rarely sexy. With this in mind I have decided to write this blog post on 4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE! I even made sure to post images. Enjoy!
1. Lose Weight
We all in some form or fashion have had a friend, family member or even a complete stranger say we need to lose weight. If we just lost a little weight we would look better. Or recently I heard if so and so lost weight they could get and keep a man. Whew child! Those people are not your friends and even family can get a side-eye and blocked. SEXY HAS NO SIZE! Sexy, like confidence, is a state of mind. No amount of weight loss will make you feel sexy if you don’t believe it.
2. Don’t Smile
During the initial consultation, we are laughing and having an amazing time getting to know each other. That same energy is carried into the actual experience. Joy is sexy. Laughter is sexy. Being happy is sexy! A boudoir experience is one way to honor your body as it is now. Your body is a work of art. It nourishes you, it has kept you alive during this pandemic. It needs to be celebrated. We need to look at our bodies and smile.
3. Straighten Your Hair
For special occasions throughout our history getting our hair pressed was a rite of passage. You have seen the memes around Easter of the hot comb. Or having to straighten your hair to look more presentable to get that job interview. Discrimination around our hair is very real and alive and well. Our hair is a beautiful reflection of who we are whether it be braided, relaxed, cornrowed, etc. All of these styles are sexy because we make them sexy. You make them sexy.
4. Only Wear Lingerie
When it comes to a boudoir experience you are in total control of what you place on your body. Lingerie is not really my jam. I love a good silk robe or my waistbands and nothing at all. That is my version of getting sexy. Yes, I have a full client closet with lingerie from sizes 5XL to XS. I also have sweaters, dress shirts, tank tops, crop tops, and t-shirts. Just like Black & Brown womxn come in all forms and shades, your sexy look should be a reflection of you.
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3 REASONS WHY I CAN’T DO A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE
As a Black woman, I understand the statistics about us. 80% of Black households are run by Black women. On the other side of this is we are the fastest-growing segment of the population for growing businesses. We are also the most educated. Do you know what this really means, we are FUCKING TIRED. Literally we are tired of being everything for everyone and not doing enough for ourselves.
I am 34 years old and I tell you I still have moments when I feel bad for buying something for myself. This stems from my past relationship and I know that. I recently bought a purse and didn’t take off the tag because it felt like a very indulgent purchase. Here is the crazy thing, I am a single woman with no children and I still second-guessed this purchase! So I know other women who have the same dilemma I did. Then I remembered that I deserve to have beautiful things, amazing experiences, and be to be spoiled.
Having a boudoir experience can feel like a self – indulgent leap for you. You are literally doing something that is ALL about you. All about identifying your version of sexy. Embracing your divine feminity and making your own choices. This can be very scary because it can be easy to make decisions for others, but not for when it comes to investing in ourselves.
Having your own boudoir experience will change you. Change you in ways that can be subtle or profound. No matter the type of change it always takes place and it is amazing to see. Amazing to hear the stories, witness the tears of joy and see the excitement in a Beautie’s eyes. Witness the love she has for herself when she is able to see herself as a beautiful Black goddess worthy of praise.
Now in order to get to this point, she has to get over a few barriers. Here are the top 3 barriers I hear for not having a boudoir experience:
